Arecee purchased a CB3000 for me! I had no idea. Apparently it arrived on Friday while I was away. She showed it to me for the first time on Sunday.
We tried for a several minutes to put it on, but without success. There are lots of parts and pieces. After much fiddling and figuring out which way the ring goes, I was starting to get semi erect from all the fondling. Well, maybe the new toy and her presence had something to do with that too. :-) I did the ring. She tried to slip the tube on, and the directions she read said to use some lube, and by that time, maybe 3 or 4 tries, it just wouldn't fit. It was more laughter than frustration, I'm happy to say. It's smaller than I thought, and even the beginning of erection makes it too small. We ended up having sex... pretty much the opposite of chastity!
She put it away and we talked a while about where we're going with this. I was surprised she actually bought it. She was surprised I was surprised. We've talked about trying this over the years, and usually it's been our consensus it's probably too much maintenance. My position has been that I'm willing to submit (and we do indeed do many other much lighter dominance/submission things), but if we're going to get into chastity, it has to come from her. Even though we've talked about this many times, she's never actually purchased one... until now. She was surprised I didn't think she would, even though that's been the case every other time the chastity subject has come up.
We talked about where we're going. She said not 24/7. She wants to just experiment for now. She mentioned she was interested in doing things like tying my hands while it's off, showering together and putting it back on me before leaving for work. She really does seem excited about it, which scares me a little. My position is still willing to submit and go where she wants to take it, but the direction really does have to come from her. Of course, it remains to be seen how this really works out, if it'll get used a few times and join the collection of other toys that only get used once in a great while, or turn into a regular practice? But for now, it hasn't even been fully on me yet.
I'm seen numerous very hot erotic chastity play stories over the years. "Mistress seduces inexperienced submissive" and "Wife discovers husband cheating and forces chastity (and lots humiliating acts)" seem to be common themes. Hot erotic fiction. Some even claim to be factual, often toned down a bit. Well, at least so far, even just figuring out how to get the damn thing on, dealing with erection caused by fondling and sexual tension is not a simple matter. I always knew those stories and many people's supposedly factual accounts of chastity play were really over-the-top, but now having tried to just simply get the damn thing on, the disparity between fantasy and reality is seems even greater than I suspected.
June 18 2007, 21:42:56 UTC 4 years ago
I think that could be said about a great many things in this world. Of course, there are also times when the reality far exceeds the fantasy.
"My position is still willing to submit and go where she wants to take it, but the direction really does have to come from her. "
Nods. I understand that quite well.
June 19 2007, 19:21:00 UTC 4 years ago
June 22 2007, 21:23:40 UTC 4 years ago
June 20 2007, 09:13:11 UTC 4 years ago
CB3000
I bought one for my guy.... I loved putting it on him, it was hard to figure it out and put it on, but more often I do it.... I am getting used to it...... it's a wonderful piece.:) Lady Red Sun ( EJ )
June 20 2007, 17:24:37 UTC 4 years ago
If you want some advice for the toy, you should be bound up, tightly and often (obviously) but then have her milk you to help relax your shaft. Once flaccid, then put it on and keep it on for as long as she chooses (again, obviously). For my own part, when it's time to train a slave into that, it'll be one orgasm a day, then one day locked up. Continue that for 2-3 weeks, then move to 3 orgasms every 4 days, or so. More 2-3 weeks. Then keep scaling back until you're getting one orgasm a week or less. Then move to monthly. Then you'll be chaste, and you won't even miss things. Particularly if you obtain a prostate massager so you can be forcibly milked while in the chastity device.
Just food for thought. And yes, this will work, though the sub will be bitching quite extensively and getting moodier for the last 2-3 stages. Once you hit once a week or so, though, things will change sharply for you, and you'll just accept it without thinking. It's just classic operant conditioning, and that's been proven to work in so many different ways, I can't imagine you'd not be able to adapt to it.
June 22 2007, 21:25:46 UTC 4 years ago
Who knows? Time will tell. She seems pretty determined, though how far she wants to take the denial is still a mystery (at least to me...)
December 14 2007, 23:08:10 UTC 4 years ago
As someone who's had a strong interest in being kept under the sexual control of another person in this way for a long time, I do wonder about the reactions of people for whom such play is not a core part of their fantasies. I'd be interested in reading more of your thoughts on that, if you should wish to share them.
Again, have fun.
Anonymous
November 21 2007, 23:49:42 UTC 4 years ago
June 21 2007, 04:19:17 UTC 4 years ago
You guys are going to have lots of fun with chastity, no matter how often you use it. :)
My sweetie (The Charming Man) and I don't use it every day, but we use it a lot more often as time goes on. It adds a fantastic level of sensuality and control in between actual scenes. :) Which means we are actually getting smoochy and sexy far more often!
Anonymous
November 21 2007, 23:56:59 UTC 4 years ago
September 5 2007, 22:05:33 UTC 4 years ago
Didn't take much reading to realize ... I may have the wrong impression.
LOL
December 14 2007, 23:04:39 UTC 4 years ago
That said, I think chastity play and its brethren is a wonderful, very sexy pasttime, and I'm vicariously excited for you. It's especially neat to see the idea being approached so sensibly and with as much common sense as you seem to portray which is, sadly, very uncommon on teh internetz indeed.
Good luck! And have fun! (Both of you.)